Self esteem over feeling!!

If you ever find yourself in a dilemma of holding on to someone or letting go despite being hurt everyday, you gotta ask yourself if its really worth eventually or am I only screwing up my self respect and my mental peace? It always hurts to be the one who cares more, to be the one to sacrifice, to be the one who has so much to confront but end up shattering them within oneselves.

Having a pure heart in this generation is not easy. People now don't really want the ones who can take stand for themselves, who can just walk out from their lives knowing they are being hurt and holding it for so long, knowing they tried, they tried a lot but couldn't make it. It hurts. It pains the heart.

Always remember when you will prioritize your self respect above every other , they will blame you, the society will criticise you because you chose yourself over sacrifices, compromises, over draining your peace for something/someone who did not even deserve a part of your time.

Why to put yourself in a position where they take you for granted ever since you walked in their life. Like why to put yourself in a second place when people in this era are only bothered about their indulgence itself and we are just a mere piece of existing soul in their life. 

You know it became so common that we can see individuals everywhere still entertaining the needs of the ones devoid of the fact they are just wasting their love and time on someone who will just turn their back against them in the time of adversity, the time when they need them the most.

You tried right? You tried freakin hard to pretend as if you are all right being treated wrong, being treated the way you don't deserve. Despite they had your back. But ask yourself until when?  Tell yourself,you don't deserve this pain, you don't deserve to suffer this way. They cannot have a hold of your life. Walk out when you feel for the same.

Also, remember our parents didn't bring us up to beg for somebody's existence in our life. We are not being raised to be taken as for granted.

So its okay, its completely okay if you chose peace over someone, if you prioritized your self esteem over someone. Their absence in your life will definitely cause you with agony in your heart but that is momentary.

Invest your time over someone who values your existence, before whom you feel worthy as a human. BEFORE WHOM YOU WOULDN'T HAVE TO BE PLACED YOURSELF IN A SECONDARY POSITION.


                                   BY - Anshika Awasthi

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