Welcome to adulthood- A Beautiful depressive phase



As a child we all must've seen people in their age  of 17-18 juggling around to find a purpose, Purpose of life, purpose to live or purpose to survive. Obviously at that tender age we were unaware of what their life is all about. What life after 18 was meant to hold for them. But now when we grew up, standing straight exactly at that age, everything seems so baffled. Emerging out as an adult from a completely immature phases of our life is not easy. In fact it shouldn't be called a cakewalk. Its just like a butterfly emerging out of cocoon and suddenly expected to be able to fly, to touch the sky without realising that little beautiful creature still needs to adapt to the new environment, still needs to grow its wings.

You know, until we realise, how amazing and elated this adulthood would have been, we are subjected to the reality of how "uncertain" it is at the same time. To be precise, until reality strikes us. A child who has just entered at this not so certain phase is immediately expected to achieve a standing in society. Wowww!! What are these expectations? Who are the ones to expecte us? Parents? Friends? Family? No. BUT OUR OWN CONSCIENCE, OUR OWN INTUITION. OUR OWN MIND WHO WANTS TO ACQUIRE A WINNING TROPHY IN THIS RAT RACE where everyone strives to move forward, to move ahead, ahead of everyone.

You enter the adulthood and you realise the world was never so easy as we looked it years ago. That sudden realisation of the comfort, our parents provided us with never allowed us to pass through the atrocities until we become it's victims.

The age 18 is pretty much uncanny. You leave behind your friends, you made a promise to be "friends forever", those friends who never used to hide anything from you suddenly turns out to be strangers. At times, in this beautiful depressive phase you are left with none but YOU and your EXPECTATIONS. Expectations which hurts eventually because they were the ones who kept you alive when you completely lost yourself among the crowd of many and now these own expectations tend to leave the hold of your hands just like the friends who once used to be" friends forever".  You tend to deviate yourself while finding a piece of you, lost ages ago.

Coming into a happier part, adulthood is not only about losing friends, beloved or losing yourself, being depressed or carrying the weight of responsibilities and expectations. Trust me it is much more beautiful. 

You meet people who unexpectedly turns out to be your family. You meet the love of your life, a partner you know now is a part of your life, happiness and sorrows and vice versa. There will be changes, you'll witness which would give you a joy you never dreamt. The happiness you get after you receive your first pay check, the moment of pride shining in the eyes of your parents for the same, your first trip to ladakh with your friends by your money is what adulthood is all about. 

Conclusively, this roller coaster has everything to offer, has everything to make it happening. From losing hope, quitting to being proud of yourself to survive this alone. It completely depends upon how the one perceives it.


                  By- Anshika Awasthi



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