Hook-ups and break-ups --- a new trend?

 

"Look, I don't believe in commitments, I cannot bear that nonsense. Let's just get into a relationship and then we'll see if its gonna workout in future". We all are quite familiar with these sentences in our everyday life , in fact many among us are one of such kind. Our generation as a teenager desire for a relationship but without commitments, desire for love but without getting into its purity, desire intimacy but without considering how sacred this could be if one leaves behind the desperation for the same.

 You know love is the most beautiful feeling if one understand its true meaning. Have you ever noticed that when you are around the person you love, how abnormally your heart starts to beat like it was eventually for that person around which it could jump like a child. 

Sudden goosebumps by the slightest touch of that person, an uninvited smile while secretly staring that one special person after a long exhausted day, a sudden contemplation about that someone whilst attending other chores, and that little cornered blush when you hear your name from that one special person, love is all about this..without expectations, without asking for any return,concern and of course a compromise.

But maybe we as a teenagers have normalised hookups and breakups to that extent that it is now determined as, would not be wrong to call it as so-called parameter of being Cool.

Reason? The reason is same. It became a new trend of proving oneself cool and the desire to be accepted among friends because in this generation where love is only being pretended and not felt, what can one expect from others but this?

Our generation turned out to be so desperate for relationships that we discovered a new trend "Friends with Benefits"(FWB) or I should say " use and throw"  where the ultimate motive of Gen Z is to satisfy their desires,without being bound into commitments. And if one fails to satisfy the other then the hunt for next predator starts and the cycle continues.

Earlier, sending letters, going on dates (by dates I mean, sitting under the sky, without a word but eyes that used to express louder than words, hand in hand walking alongside each other, and when it rained, eating bhutta(corns) sitting near window living that simple yet "a rainbow on the cloud" moment) were the purest forms of showing our love towards that only person.

But as said, "time flies" where teens now prefer hotel rooms over sitting under the sky. Where dating 2 girls at a time is considered to be royalty. Where asking for nudes is preferred so often than knowing about those little things about our partner which makes them different from others.

A cherry on a cake is people nowadays want to put 0 efforts in their relationship but expect their partner to compromise every single time. Remember a successful relationship is about two individuals. We cannot expect from our partner to compromise until we ourselves are putting into same efforts. A little extra efforts will cause us no harm.

 But sadly we are living in the generation where breaking up feels so easy for us than putting efforts to make our relationship, long-lasting. After all why should we even bother ourselves to put in efforts, we are obliged to satisfy our big broad ego, right?

It is truly said, Finding true love in this generation is like looking for dinasorous. Love is not that complicated as we made it. It is just that we are not willing to put in efforts to make it as beautiful as it sounds. If we stop normalising the trend of hook-ups and breakups, it will surely turn out to be as one

But unfortunately we are scared of commitments and consequently we are scared to love,we are scared to get attached to someone, we shatter our feelings within us maybe because this generation do not value emotions anymore. 

Maybe this is the reason why people with pure heart are always ditched upon and gradually find themselves to be scared to love again.

 

                                            By- Anshika Awasthi